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Who Are Your Heroes?
ACTION TO TAKE
Have at least one hero that you aspire to emulate
When we were kids we had lots of heroes–perhaps they were football stars, cowboys, movie stars, TV stars, rock stars, or even our parents or teachers. Many people outgrow their heroes and don't replace them with new ones. Perhaps they think heroes are just for kids. If you want to be youthful, do what youthful people do. Youthful people have heroes.
I often see clients who see trust as an all-or-nothing issue. They either trust someone or they don't. This is a bad idea. I can't think of anyone I trust on all matters, e.g.,
- to honestly say what they think (some people are "too nice" to risk hurting your feelings)
- to be honest and responsible with money
- to speak up when you are making a bad decision
- to be punctual
- to help with problems
- to keep a secret
- to be loyal
- to follow through, etc.
The idea is to appreciate a person's or hero's strengths and not insist they be perfect in all areas. Especially when it comes to political leaders, it is hard to find one who does not have faults and make some bad decisions. Not being perfect should not preclude you from having heroes.
Who is my hero? I thought you'd never ask. When my career turned to anti-aging psychology, speaking, and writing, my favorite hero became Art Linkletter. He was host of two of the longest running television programs–"House Party" and "People are Funny." One ran on radio and TV for 25 years. Keys to his success included his wit, his great sense of humor, and his consummate interviewing skills. He was MC for the opening of Disneyland in 1955 and at age 93 was MC at Disneyland's 50th anniversary in 2005. There is an interesting story that when Disneyland opened Walt Disney said he couldn't afford to pay him an appropriate fee. Linkletter graciously suggested he would settle for the camera and photo rights for ten years. I think he did OK on that deal.
He was adopted at an early age (and later in life adopted many children himself). Despite family tragedies, (his 20-year-old daughter committed suicide and his 31-year-old son died in an automobile accident,) adversity didn't stop him from his passionate interest in children and seniors. In a Larry King interview in 2000 he said he has been married 65 years. He swims laps every day and only recently stopped skiing because his wife was afraid snowboarders might hit him.
His "Kids Say the Darndest Things" format interviewing young children has been often imitated. His 27 books include Old Age is Not for Sissies. He does more than fifty lectures a year and is active on the Boards of many businesses and charities. At 84 he still travels the world on philanthropic causes. To me the crowning jewel is his new book, How to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life. It has great advice for what it takes to live well into your hundreds. You can tell in reading it that this is what he really believes and follows. His life is a testimony to following the principles and the wonderful life that can flow from it.
P.S. When I sent Mr. Linkletter a copy of 52 baby steps to Grow Young, I was thrilled when he wrote an endorsement for it.
Don't ask me if I'm going to retire. Retire to what? I love what I'm doing because I think it matters. And I think this book can matter to anyone who is getting into the later years. Don't stop living and learning.
I never want to be What I want to be, Because there's always something out there yet for me.
There’s always one hill higher with a better view, Something waiting to be learned I never knew.
So until my last days are over Never fully fill my cup. Let me go on grouping–up.
~Art Linkletter, from his newest book, How to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life
The only thing you should Re-tire is your car.
When you get old, love making is less like the Fourth of July and more like Thanksgiving.
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